Let me fill you in a little bit on who I am. I am almost 30 years old, lead a good life, have fun, do good things, am active and sane. I am foreign and have found myself a home in the gorgeous city of Atlanta.
I had been married for two years but it apparently was not meant to be and luckily we found out sooner than later.
After my marriage I put myself out there and started dating like crazy with one date lined up after another for three weeks straight. Gosh, anyone ever noticed how exhausting that can be? Getting ready, putting the glam look on every night just to find out that you have wasted hours preparing for a mental or emotional nutshell?
So, considering I had always been in long relationships I decided I should more focus on FUN. I just met guys here and there and explored my sexual nature. I didn't end up with tons of guys but believe me, I gained plenty of experience and can show off a folio filled with personal trainers, the married guy, the business traveler and even an exotic dancer and about to be porn star.
That phase was followed by a seven month relationship with a director which was oh so great in the beginning until he was diagnosed with bi-polar disorder and on advise of his doc we separated, means he removed himself from me.
For a few months I have been dating now here and there without nothing serious in the making, except for this one guy.
Great looks, smart, good job, son and beautiful in his ways. Sounds like the perfect catch, if there hadn't been this psychologist been involved whom he forgot to mention, even after I had told him about my previous experiences.
Well, doesn't take much to guess but of course the psychologist advised him not to be dating at this time.
Now my dating questionnaire needs to be extended by the question, whether or not the guy comes in a packaged deal with a psychologist, it appears.
Only, even when you say it in a funny way it leads guys to think I am dragging along baggage while I am thinking I have grown to be smarter for the future.
I am an active member on match.com and have no problems making this public. Match.com is kind of an interesting platform as I know from my wilder months that many of match.com members also have very active profiles up on a different type of adult website.
This alone reduces your serious dating pool by 1/3. If you are actually looking for someone who leads an active and meaningful life you can expect another reduction because many of those candidates use match.com to quickly get to know someone, yet, they struggle to actually make time to REALLY get to know someone.
Interestingly I came across this article from last year in which the author claims Atlanta to be THE best city in the US to get to know men. Unfortunately it does not say much about the level of connection. The list of best places to meet men contains a whole bunch of fancy hotel bars.
So you can meet men there but chances are they are not even from town, also mentioning Atlanta has a huge gay community, in addition many great men who often are married or in other ways attached, plenty of men who love to say how laid back they are; 'laid back' by the way, is not normally what you hear women say. I don't know, if that is a genetic thing and what does 'laid back' even really mean? Does it mean you are good holding a can of beer in one had while hanging on the couch and scratching your jewels? Seriously, what is it?
Had to google it real quick as I was getting really curious for a second. Here it is:
"When a person gets stuff done....... ..... ..... eventually.... .... they are laid back. Someone who is constantly relaxed, and refuses to argue over something that isn't important unless they admit that it isn't important- in that case they'll have a nice, relaxed, argument. Someone who is laid back will never pick a fight, and is never stuck up."
Doesn't it have looser written all over???
Interestingly the article resonated in a tremendous response and find yourself a seat! The majority of people mentioned exactly all of those points I have just summarized for you.
Now, I have to admit that me going to gay bars, where I love to hang out to peoplewatch and enjoy my friends' company do, doesn't increase my chances, does it.
Nonetheless, what happened to the good old bumping into someone, sharing eye contact, a moment, just the two of us, him and I? Accidental moments in which you meet that someone. What has happened to the arrows that hit two people at the same time?
It appears as if Cupido is out of office or was run over by one of those really laid back guys that just don't do well with decision making, not even with an arrow in their chest or butt cheek.
Going forward I will share episodes of my dating life, resolutions, improvements and setbacks. I hope I can help a bit, give some advise, be advised and help you and myself find the humor in the interaction with the specimen man. Enjoy!
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